My name is Mary. I am a woman and like all of you, I have a story.
From an early age I was an observer and a storyteller who had a wonderful imagination. I enjoyed listening to people because I had a need to figure out their stories and wanted to understand them. Growing up, life happened and the days of my life turned into the pages of, what seemed, at times an unbelievable story. I tried to handle each challenge with all the kindness and understanding that I could find within me, as each new scar settled into my broken innocence.
Now, I realize that each player who became a part of my life was living through their own dramatic story. Each being and acting the only way they knew how, according to the narrative they believed about themselves.
On July 22, 2013 my beautiful 25 year old daughter was operated for a brain tumor. It brought back the memories of losing my father to the same operation years ago. They took her in for her surgical procedure on a Sunday night at 7 p.m. and by 3 a.m. on Monday morning, after almost eight hours, it was over. We still did not know the details except that she was alive and that she responded to a few question when they woke her up minutes after the operation.
On Tuesday morning, the day after her surgery, the man who had been in my life for six years took his own life. It was surreal and impossible to believe. Inside, I was shattered and at that moment I knew that the only way to get through it was to change the story of my life.
I stepped back from the busyness of "normal" life, bowed my head and surrendered to the storm I was lost in. It was the most difficult challenge I had ever experienced and I knew that no one was coming to save me. No one could make it all better and no I did not fall apart.
My dream has always been to be a writer. I've longed to write about the lives of women from a personal and understanding perspective. I'm not a great writer... actually, far from it. I know I will never be a Jane Austin, nor an Emily Bronte; that is not the reason I write. My hope is that I can use my education, life experiences and stories to encourage other women to find their way to living a life of their choosing. My mother, who was my role model, always used to say that, "there are better days ahead". I believed her and have used those words throughout my life as a means of moving forward, despite the challenges that seemingly tried to block me.
As a student of the Simply Women Accredited Training Institute (SWAT), I have the honour of working with the visionary empowerment coach and teacher Crystal Andrus, who is the head of a unique world wide women's empowerment educational movement.
If you are open to understanding your story and the reasons for some of the happenings in your own life, I hope that you will find some answers here. If you are searching "for your own better days ahead", I want you to realize that you have a choice. Here on this website, I will try and help you shift your thoughts from a place of pain, discouragement and fear, into a place of dreams and possibility through the content that I will share. It is only by understanding the story you are telling yourself, that you will be able to change your future for the better.
Without any promises, complicated heavy work, and an overload of information to absorb, I would like to welcome you to this place of women's storytelling.
It is your calling and no matter what you do...it will always be that voice that keeps calling you back to what you are supposed to be doing in this big wide world of ours. As women, we settle, make do, try our best to take care of everyone and everything, push our needs aside, silence our inner voice that is calling us, by telling ourselves that we will get to it later. We become very good at hushing it away because we have so much to keep us busy... but it cannot be silenced and the saddest regret we will live with, is the knowing that we never did what we were supposed to do in this life.
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