Today stand back and look at the people in your life. What do they talk about? Are their conversations focused on the exciting things they have done or intend to do? Or are they talking about their neighbours and judging their lifestyle? Do they talk with kindness or bitterness in their voices?
What are they saying about the young woman who finds herself pregnant with no boyfriend to help her share her news?
" Well she was just sleeping around and she should have been more careful."
"She is old enough to know better. "
" Well like mother like daughter, you know her mother had her at fifteen."
"What can you expect with the young people today, no morals?"
"How is she going to look after that baby, she can't even look after herself?"
Instead of having compassion for the young woman who is probably feeling scared and alone, the world judges.
Instead of expressing kindness, their voices express a form of hate.
Why must we express ourselves in such a joyless state of judgement?
The reason is that we have our own hurt trapped inside of us and that hurt turned into jealousy, which turned into bitterness, which turned into judgement , that expresses itself in hatred towards others. Somehow it feels good to make sure someone else is hurting too. It doesn't make sense and it does not take away our pain. It actually add more salt into our own wounds, which makes us more bitter etc.
The words that you use in your everyday living is a powerful indicator of how you are feeling about yourself.
Change your thoughts, change your words. To do this, you are going to have to start to like yourself. In fact you are going to have to start loving yourself with all your flaws and bad experiences. Things are the way they are and you can sit and sulk away your life or you can choose to start finding little reasons to smile and soften your view on life. Being grateful, forgiving and kind does help.
Start to practice little acts of kindness towards yourself and others.
Start to look at others as if it was you in their situation. It could be, if you don't change your attitude. No one is above anything in this world. A millionaire can be living on the street in a year from now. A woman who thinks she has found the perfect man can be alone in a month.
This exercise will help you use compassion instead of judgement.
It takes strength of character and true courage to be kind and compassionate, but you get what you give.
Smile and the worlds smiles with you.
Cry and you cry alone.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
You get what you give.
Don`t get caught up in your pain, it makes it last longer.
What you resist, persists.
Have a great day!